Are you a victim or a victor?

I always thought of myself as a victor.  I thought of myself as someone who faced adversaty and triumphed.  I even wrote a book loosely based on my life.  (To purchase  From Victim to Victor click on the link.) After writing the book and while I have been unemployed I realized I am not a victor.  At least I did not act like one.  I acted like a victim.

When we had problems at home I acted like it was someone else's fault (victim).  I never looked at what I possibly did.  For so long I was mistreated or not appreciated I did not consider the problem was that I did not appreciate what I did.  I did not consider that I put too much pressure on myself.  I did not consider that I should just do as much as I can and leave the rest up to God.

Everyone has problems.  Big problems like how are you going to put food on the table.  Small problems like having an out of date cell phone that does not work well.  There are many kinds of problems.  The way we face them defines us.  We can make a small problem huge.  We can make a huge problem just another day.

I have  my share of problems.  I wish I could say I have dealt with all of them well.  But I cannot say that.  Some problems are too big for me to handle alone.  However, I hate bothering anyone with my problems.  I often times think I can handle it alone. 

I wish I could help everyone with their problems.  A wise person once said to me, "How can we help them if we cannot help ourselves." 

Well I am going to stop blaming others or situations for my problems.  I am going to change my situation for the better.  When I improve myself then I can help others.  Then I will be a victor.

See even I became a writer but FaceBook and Twitter are too confining for me.  I like to rant.  My next book will come straight from my imaginaion.